You want to feel confident but you don't… Sound familiar? The honest truth is that this is where most women are - they want confidence but don't know how to get it. In this article I show you how to put on your best you every. single. day.

Confidence Boosters

Compare Yourself to Yourself & Smile

The thief of all joy is comparison. We were never created to be the same. Our intended purpose is to spread the love and joy of who we really are. Think about this a moment and really let it sink in. Think about the people you are attracted to. Who do you enjoy being around? What qualities do they possess? I bet you they smile, a lot. This is tip number one, wear that smile. Even if you have to fake it at first, it gets easier and easier and before you know it, you'll see yourself doing it without even thinking. All of a sudden, you are happier and not really sure why. Your smile is gorgeous, don't forget to put it on everyday!

Pump Up the Volume

Wake up, get up and get the bass beats going. Don't worry about waking the neighbors, you'll likely get them feeling good too! While the music is up, have a little dance party. No one is watching, no one is judging; you look flipping amazing! Bounce, head bang, give yourself a wide stance and open your arms wide. Cheer yourself on! There is science behind everything I'm suggesting here. Give it a try and tell me how you feel, especially if you don't believe me.  It can't hurt, right?

Change that Self Talk

Yep. I feel like us women are our own worst critics. You have got to stop beating yourself up. Stop being so mean to yourself!


What's it doing for you?

See! Clearly, not helping.

Instead of, "I'm so fat. Blech", try "I'm going to love myself more and make healthier choices" or "This body built some bomb a$s kids. Thanks body."

Truthfully, healthier choices (exercise, food, self talk) all play a HUGE roll in how you feel. Baby steps are still steps, still moving forward. Cheer yourself on! Even if you trip and fall, get back up and try again. Isn't that what a babe does when he/she is learning to walk?

Well, you are learning to be kinder to yourself. You won't be perfect the first many, many times you try. Just keep trying. You'll get there. I promise.

Feeling Better?

Now that you are more confident, go grab some of your favorite pieces from your closet and put those on. Feeling good is step number one to looking good.  Frankly, the only step that really matters.
Just as you are made unique in your gifts and talents, so is your appearance.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with how you look exactly as you are, right where you are, and right now. Give yourself that hug you so much deserve.

Here's some quick tips to maximize what you already own.

1. Look for new pairings, or ways to layer the old.

2. Make sure the fit is still right.  You don't want to big because it makes you look bigger.  You don't want too tight, you'll end up being self conscious about what may be showing or peeking through.

3. Invest in good undergarments.  If they fit and feel good, no one but you will notice.  That's how it should be.  If they are too tight, you'll not only be uncomfortable, but they'll show lines and bulges through your clothes.  Too big, you'll be messing with them all day.

Hope some of these ideas help you feel like the gorgeous woman you already are!


As always, need more tips, ideas or help with your fashion sense; stop by our shop in Lynn Haven, just outside Panama City Beach FL. We take appointments and offer personal styling sessions.

January 27, 2022 — Michele Monastra

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